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The Struggle of Unresolved Grief Unresolved grief shows up in many ways. For example, you may recognize some of these struggles in your own journey.
Lingering Regret and Guilt “I never got to say goodbye.” “I should have been there more.” “Did they know I loved them?” “I wish I had apologized.” As a result, these thoughts often create a cycle of guilt. Instead of living in the present, you remain tied to the past.
Unanswered Questions “Why did this happen?” “What were their last moments like?” “Did they suffer?” “Are they at peace?” Consequently, questions like these can lead to doubt, frustration, or even anger toward God. Because of this, many people stay stuck instead of moving toward healing.
Emotional and Spiritual Numbness
- Feeling stuck and unable to fully grieve.
- Becoming distant from God and questioning your faith.
- Withdrawing from people because you fear more loss. In short, without closure, grief can feel like a prison. That is why finding a healthy way forward is so important.
The Role of Faith in Healing God never intended for you to carry grief alone. In fact, His Word promises: “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” – Psalm 34:18 Even when life does not make sense, God walks with you. Moreover, He sees your tears, understands your sorrow, and offers comfort. Healing does not mean forgetting your loved one. Rather, it means giving your pain to God and trusting Him to bring peace. Even though closure did not come, He is still working for your good.
Steps to Healing and Finding Peace First, healing starts with honesty—both with yourself and with God. In fact, being honest opens the door for Him to bring peace.
- Talk openly with Him about regrets, anger, or questions.
- Write your thoughts and pray through them.
- Remember: grief is not a lack of faith. After all, even Jesus wept (John 11:35).
Identify What Feels Unfinished Grief often feels unresolved because of words left unsaid. However, you can still find closure today.
- Ask yourself: What would I say if I had one more chance?
- Write a letter to your loved one. For instance, you might express love, gratitude, apology, or even your frustration.
Surrender the Unanswered Questions to God Some questions will never be answered this side of eternity. Even so, healing comes when you release them into God’s care.
- Pray for peace in the unknown.
- Trust that your loved one is safe with Him.
- Anchor yourself in Proverbs 3:5: “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding.”
Remember Without Regret Moving forward does not mean forgetting. On the contrary, you can honor your loved one in ways that bring peace.
- Share stories and celebrate their life.
- Live out the values they taught you.
- Turn your pain into purpose. For example, help others who grieve.
Release the Pain and Choose to Move Forward Healing requires a decision. In other words, you must decide to no longer let grief define you.
- Pray for God’s strength to release the weight you carry.
- Give yourself permission to experience joy again.
- Carry their love with you in peace, not in sorrow.
Finding Peace in God’s Promise Grief often leaves us longing for reunion. For believers, death is not a final goodbye but a temporary separation. “He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain…” – Revelation 21:4 One day, there will be no more grief. Until then, however, God promises to walk with you and give you strength each step of the way.
Taking the Next Step Toward Healing Faith is powerful. However, healing often requires action as well. That is why I offer grief recovery coaching using a proven process that helps people release pain and find peace. Through this process, you will:
- Identify emotions you have carried for years.
- Work through guilt, regret, and unanswered questions.
- Learn practical steps to complete unfinished grief.
- Move from pain to healing without losing connection to your loved one.
Grief Recovery Coaching in Dayton and the Miami Valley My name is Frank Wyatt. I’m a grief recovery specialist serving the Dayton, Ohio area and the Miami Valley, including:
- Fairborn
- Beavercreek
- Huber Heights
- Springfield
- Kettering
- Xenia
- Tipp City
- And surrounding communities I offer grief recovery coaching on a donation basis because no one should be turned away from healing due to finances. If you or someone you love is struggling with unresolved grief, I would be honored to walk with you.
- 📞 Call or Text: 937-732-5868 📧 Email: frankwyatt@gmail.com
- 🌎 Website: frankwyatt.org
- Don’t carry grief alone.
- Above all, remember that healing is possible, and your loved one would want you to live with peace and hope.