I’m really passionate about this topic, and I’m sitting down to write this blog post about grief. I want to talk about something that’s really important: taking that first step to acknowledge and address grief. Because, let’s be honest, it’s not easy.
We all know grief can be tough. But what happens when we don’t deal with it? It’s like we get stuck, right? We get caught in these patterns, these ‘chains’ if you will, that hold us back. It’s like we’re emotionally stagnant, and it really impacts our quality of life.
Let’s break down these ‘chains’ a bit:
- Emotional Isolation:
- You know, when you’re grieving, it’s so easy to just shut down. You might feel like nobody gets it. You start pulling away from people, even the ones who want to help.
- Difficulty Concentrating:
- Your mind just won’t settle. It’s either racing or it feels like you’re in a fog. Trying to focus on anything is a real struggle.
- Physical Health Problems:
- Grief isn’t just in your head. It can show up in your body too. Headaches, stomach issues, you name it. It takes a toll.
- Relationship Breakdowns:
- When you’re grieving, it’s hard to be present. You might be short-tempered or just unavailable. This can put a strain on your relationships.
- Lack of Motivation:
- Everything feels like a chore. You lose interest in things you used to love. Even getting out of bed can feel impossible.
So, when we see these things happening, it’s a sign. It’s a sign that we need to take action. Because if we don’t? We stay stuck. We can’t move forward. And, just…wow, it hit me, if we don’t deal with unresolved grief, we can be swamped with a whole mess of emotions. I mean, we’re talking way beyond just sadness.
You might feel:
- Angry: Just plain furious, at the world, at yourself, maybe even at the person you lost.
- Sadness: a deep unending sadness.
- Bitterness: That sharp, resentful feeling that life’s been unfair.
- Guilt: That heavy weight of ‘what ifs’ and ‘should haves’.
- Confusion: Not knowing what to do or how to feel.
- Numbness: Just feeling completely empty and detached.
- Despair: Feeling like there’s no hope, like you’ll never feel better.
- Anger at God: Wondering why, if there is a god, they would allow this to happen.
Think about it this way: sometimes, unresolved grief is about those unsaid things. That need to tell someone you love them, one last time. To say thank you. To apologize for something you regret. Those unsaid words can weigh us down. And that’s something we need to address.
Think about it. Those unsaid words. That last ‘I love you.’ That apology. It weighs you down. You have to deal with it. And it is something that needs to be addressed.
I’ll continue this post tomorrow, if you’d like. Want more information about the Grief Recovery Method and how you can find healing? Reach out to me at 937-732-5868. I just want you to know, I care about you. I love you, and I want you to get better. Take care, my friends.”