As we focus on today’s myth, it may become clear to you that the attempt to “be strong” rather than being honest, also keeps us from taking actions that lead to recovery.
We’ve rarely met anyone from anywhere in the world who didn’t carry with them the incorrect idea that they need to “be strong” in response to emotionally affecting events.
We realize that there’s a kind of logic in that idea, in so far as when there has been a death, we are often called upon to make notification to other interested family and friends; to take care of details about the memorial or funeral; and to deal with the myriad of practical considerations that accrue when someone dies.
The problem lies in confusing the need to have whatever energy and focus are demanded for those tasks, and the false idea of pushing away and covering up the naturally occurring emotions connected to the death of someone important to us.